Change can be thought of as a journey, during which we experience a mix of emotions. Some of these are outlined below:
Shock: This happens when we are first made aware of an inevitable change. It is characterised by a mismatch between expectation and reality, and causes feelings of immobilisation and numbness.
Disbelief: Denial and minimisation, which is when we try to convince ourselves that the change isn’t really happening to us and it really isn’t a ‘big deal’.
Self-doubt: When reality of the change becomes much more apparent, there may be feelings of frustration, uncertainty and anger.
Acceptance: Letting go of old attitudes or behaviours and starting to develop an acceptance of the new circumstances.
Integration: Through a process of experimentation in our thoughts and behaviour we learn to incorporate the new circumstances into everyday life and it becomes a new normality for us.
So, how can we manage periods of change in our lives and be more accepting of it?